First of all, let me say this...
PAIN IS NOT PERMISSION TO QUIT!!
There's power in pain. Think about it: where you are today, is the subtotal of what you've been through: events, traumas, your response/reaction to those traumas, your recovery, etc.
Pain is a part of life, it is what makes us human. It shapes us the same as love does. In most painful cases, you don't have to forget, but you cannot let it destroy you. We need to conquer the pain.
Ever heard the expression "Don't Make Permenant Decisions on Temporary Feelings"? Well throughout this blog I am going to suggest 5 questions to ask yourself when you are dealing with emotional pain - in the hopes that you will not make a decision you may later regret!
Question #1: What will I say when I'm in pain?
Knowing that our words affect our wellness (Proverbs 18:21), what will you say about the situation you're going through? How will you label IT? Label YOU? Does the "I should've known better" or "how could I have been so stupid" ring a bell to anyone or is it just me?!
Aligning our perspective with a positive outcomes will have major impact, for example: this REJECTION was REDIRECTION. Get it? Bet!
Questiton #2: Who will I talk to?
Listen, every prayer partner ain't a pain partner! When we're in pain, our judgement is altered...but let us use discernment - you don't want to call that friend that you know is just waiting for an invitation to slash through somebody's tires!!
Question #3: What will I NOT do?
"I won't do there..." Where is there you ask? Well it could be anything that will make you deal with SHAME on top of the pain: that ex, those drugs, slidding in that person's DM that you know ain't no good for you, binge eating, etc.
All of these are temporary "comfort"...if I can even call them that.
The decision that we make in pain are not wise, so knowing our limits beforehand is a wise thing to do! You sis, you sir reading this article is WISE!!
Question #4: What am I going to do?
Number four has sub-questions: What will you ingest? Who will you listen to?
Let me share this: in insight, I should not have listened to my own thoughts! -_-
Question #5: What will I believe?
More sub-questions (lol): Did your pain shape you more than the potter? Meaning, did it alter the core of WHO YOU ARE?
Reality is, you may not be the same after "this", but you will be WHOLE! Choose to believe in the RESSURRECTION in the midst of the cruxification.
“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life, If you don’t, life controls you.” - Tony Robbins